2012 resolutions!

Directions and signposts in my life play an important role in guiding some of my decision-making processes; a lack of guiding resolutions for 2011 has somewhat made it a slightly more confusing year than what it could/should have been for me.

I sound like I’m implying 2011 hasn’t been a good year, but surprise (or no) surprise, it’s been pretty smooth-sailing so far. I’ve gained so much from all the traveling that I’ve been doing this year alone; and it’s not just new perspectives on, in , and about life, but also the many precious new friends and acquaintances who used to be complete strangers from halfway across the globe not too long ago.

Traveling aside, I suppose there were some points in 2011 which could’ve been better handled; e.g. where better decisions could’ve been made. However, I understand that nothing’s for sure in life and situations can always be handled differently, so I’m not too bothered about most of the could-been situations that I’ve missed out on; we can always do with some new learning points in life.

For most of 2011, I’ve lived my life without a fixed set of resolutions. Things went too well that I couldn’t help but think that it shouldn’t be this way; there were times where I felt like I was a little lost even though my life seemed to be pretty on-track…  When things appear to be going well, this sort of aimlessness becomes very unjustified, however uncomfortable I may be feeling about it.

I’m not too sure if a set of new year resolutions will help to reduce any aimlessness in this case, but I sure hope it will. I’ve been thinking about it constantly for sometime now; these past few weeks, and I’ve decided that in this new year, here are some resolutions that I’ll try to live my life by for the upcoming year:

1)    Deal with rejection

Learn to better manage rejection – in both rejecting others and getting rejected by others. That includes saying “No” when I have to, instead of feeling all guilty about not being able to help someone (when I am busy enough as it is); I usually end up being grumpy when I don’t have time to complete every task on time and I would really like to cut down on that.

2)    Be more appreciative of my food

Appreciate each and every meal; I will spend more time in chewing my food, and give more thought about the tastes that I’m tasting, as well as the cooking processes involved.

3)    Say “I love you” to Mumsy, Dad and YF more often

I suppose it’ll be nice to remind them of that no matter how ‘out-of-hand’ I may get at times.

4)    Judge less, accept criticism and love more

I’ve learnt that there is usually more to people than the way they behave at the surface level; i.e. what you see may sometimes not be what you get, and all of us take turns to become victims of circumstances. So dear self, judge less, love more, and avoid people whom you just can’t bring yourself to love altogether so as to not say nasty things about them.

5)    Avoid ambiguity

This means that I’ll be doing a lot of clarification; in both clarifying things and getting things clarified, so as to reduce instances of any misunderstanding arising.

6)    Spend less time Facebooking, and more time facing books

Real books I mean. And read more Chinese books too!

7)    Remember that time is irreversible

So make the best out of whatever time I have, and that brings me to the next point:

8)    Not regretting

In a nutshell, getting things done before it’s too late and making the best out of the decisions made instead of mopping over what things could’ve been.

9)    Find out what I’m truly passionate about in life

Because nothing in particular seems to interest me very much and I’m feeling a little troubled about it.

That’s more than enough resolutions for the moment, and since I can’t think of any more right now, let’s leave things at that. Cheers to a less confusing, and an even happier 2012! :)