Directions and signposts in my life play an important role in guiding some of my
decision-making processes; a lack of guiding resolutions for 2011 has somewhat made
it a slightly more confusing year than what it could/should have been for me.
I sound like I’m implying 2011 hasn’t been a
good year, but surprise (or no) surprise, it’s been pretty smooth-sailing so
far. I’ve gained so much from all the traveling that I’ve been doing this year
alone; and it’s not just new perspectives on, in , and about life, but also the
many precious new friends and acquaintances who used to be complete strangers
from halfway across the globe not too long ago.
Traveling aside, I suppose there were some
points in 2011 which could’ve been better handled; e.g. where better decisions could’ve
been made. However, I understand that nothing’s for sure in life and situations
can always be handled differently, so I’m not too bothered about most of the could-been
situations that I’ve missed out on; we can always do with some new learning
points in life.
For most of 2011, I’ve lived my life without
a fixed set of resolutions. Things went too well that I couldn’t help but think
that it shouldn’t be this way; there were times where I felt like I was a
little lost even though my life seemed to be pretty on-track… When things appear to be going well, this sort
of aimlessness becomes very unjustified, however uncomfortable I may be feeling
about it.
I’m not too sure if a set of new year
resolutions will help to reduce any aimlessness in this case, but I sure hope
it will. I’ve been thinking about it constantly for sometime now; these past
few weeks, and I’ve decided that in this new year, here are some resolutions
that I’ll try to live my life by for the upcoming year:
1) Deal with
rejection
Learn to better
manage rejection – in both rejecting others and getting rejected by others.
That includes saying “No” when I have to, instead of feeling all guilty about
not being able to help someone (when I am busy enough as it is); I usually end
up being grumpy when I don’t have time to complete every task on time and I
would really like to cut down on that.
2) Be more appreciative
of my food
Appreciate
each and every meal; I will spend more time in chewing my food, and give more
thought about the tastes that I’m tasting, as well as the cooking processes
involved.
3) Say “I love
you” to Mumsy, Dad and YF more often
I suppose
it’ll be nice to remind them of that no matter how ‘out-of-hand’ I may get at
times.
4) Judge less, accept
criticism and love more
I’ve learnt
that there is usually more to people than the way they behave at the surface
level; i.e. what you see may sometimes not be what you get, and all of us take
turns to become victims of circumstances. So dear self, judge less, love more,
and avoid people whom you just can’t bring yourself to love altogether so as to
not say nasty things about them.
5) Avoid
ambiguity
This means
that I’ll be doing a lot of clarification; in both clarifying things and
getting things clarified, so as to reduce instances of any misunderstanding
arising.
6) Spend less
time Facebooking, and more time facing books
Real books I
mean. And read more Chinese books too!
7) Remember
that time is irreversible
So make the
best out of whatever time I have, and that brings me to the next point:
8) Not
regretting
In a
nutshell, getting things done before it’s too late and making the best out of
the decisions made instead of mopping over what things could’ve been.
9) Find out
what I’m truly passionate about in life
Because nothing in particular
seems to interest me very much and I’m feeling a little troubled about it.
That’s more than enough resolutions for the
moment, and since I can’t think of any more right now, let’s leave things at
that. Cheers to a less confusing, and an even happier 2012! :)
